“Mamma sei grassa”: la sua risposta ai figli è una lezione di vita

"Io non sono grassa. Nessuno lo è, non è qualcosa che si può essere. Però ho del grasso, tutti lo abbiamo ma in quantità diverse. C'è chi ne ha molto e chi poco, ma questo non vuol dire che una persona è meglio dell'altra". Con queste parole Allison Kimmey, la mamma di una bambina americana, ha reagito in maniera esemplare alle parole della figlia che l'aveva chiamata "grassa".

In un lungo post su Instagram, dove la donna scrittrice e motivatrice di professione è seguitissima, ha dato, a parole, una lezione di vita alla figlia. "Oggi mia figlia mi ha chiamata grassa. Si era innervosita perché l'avevo fatta uscire dall'acqua ed è andata a dire al fratellino che la mamma è grassa", ha esordito Allison, per nulla infastidita dall’affermazione della figlia, solo consapevole del fatto che le serviva una chiara spiegazione. "Se avessi fatto vergognare i miei bambini per avermi chiamata grassa, avrei perpetrato il pregiudizio secondo cui essere grassi è qualcosa di brutto", ha raccontato Allison. Inoltre, la 30enne americana ha precisato che in casa sua la parola grasso non è un tabù.

My daughter called me fat today. She was upset I made them get out of the pool and she told her brother that mama is fat. I told her to meet me upstairs so we could chat. Me: "what did you say about me?" Her: "I said you were fat, mama, im sorry" Me: "let's talk about it. The truth is, I am not fat. No one IS fat. It's not something you can BE. But I do HAVE fat. We ALL have fat. It protects our muscles and our bones and keeps our bodies going by providing us energy. Do you have fat?" Her: "yes! I have some here on my tummy" Me: "that's right! So do I and so does your brother!" Her brother: "I don't have any fat, I'm the skinniest, I just have muscles" Me: "actually everyone, every single person in the world has fat. But each of us has different amounts." Her brother: " oh right! I have some to protect my big muscles! But you have more than me" Me: "Yes, that's true. Some people have a lot, and others don't have very much. But that doesn't mean that one person is better than the other, do you both understand? Both: "yes, mama" Me: "so can you repeat what I said" Them: "yes! I shouldn't say someone is fat because you can't be just fat, but everyone HAS fat and it's okay to have different fat" Me: "exactly right!" Them: "can we go back to the pool now?" Me: no __________________ Each moment these topics come up i have to choose how I'm going to handle them. Fat is not a bad word in our house. If I shame my children for saying it then I am proving that it is an insulting word and I continue the stigma that being fat is unworthy, gross, comical and undesirable. Since we don't call people fat as an insult in my household, I have to assume she internalized this idea from somewhere or someone else. Our children are fed ideas from every angle, you have to understand that that WILL happen: at a friends house whose parents have different values, watching a tv show or movie, overhearing someone at school- ideas about body image are already filtering through their minds. It is our job to continue to be the loudest, most accepting, positive and CONSISTENT voice they hear. So that it can rise above the rest. Give me a if this resonated w u! Just do you! Xoxo Allie

Un post condiviso da ALLIE Just Do You, Babe! (@allisonkimmey) in data: 11 Giu 2017 alle ore 08:48 PDT

Dunque, un insegnamento positivo che tutti dovrebbero ricevere da piccoli, a maggior ragione se si pensa che riguarda un argomento sensibile e delicato come quello del peso.

One of the greatest gifts we can give our children is healing ourselves. •Be kind to yourself - you've been at war with yourself for too long •Enjoy your body and what it can do - it's the only one you get •This life is meant to be lived - and not wasted comparing yourself to others Just do you babes! Xoxo Allie ___________ Swimsuit by @swimsuitsforall ___________ #bopo #bodypositive #selflove #glitterstripes #everybodyisbeautiful #embracethesquish #bodypos #bodylove #bodyimage #bopowarrior #bopoforkids #bopoparenting #positiveparenting #effyourbeautystandards

Un post condiviso da ALLIE Just Do You, Babe! (@allisonkimmey) in data: 12 Lug 2017 alle ore 14:26 PDT

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